5 Ways To Figure Out What You Want

5 ways to figure out what you want


It is absolutely possible to get somewhere if you don’t know where you want to go – but I imagine you may look up and wonder how the hell you got there. It’s much more effective to decide where exactly you’d like to go.  

The Universe is listening.  

Your angels and guides are waiting to support you.  In The Universe Has Your Back Gabby Bernstein talks about the universe operating as a Spiritual GPS.  I love that.  We relinquish our desires and we are guided – given hints, signs, and opportunities and sometimes we’re redirected.  We are given direction. But, like any GPS – our guides need a destination. Your desire and intention is the address.  

So how do you figure out what you want?

5 practices to get to the heart of what you truly want:

  1. Pray or meditate or both. They both have the similar effects.   

  2. Ask questions of yourself and of others… Ask yourself: what do I enjoy?  When was I most enjoy (read: In-Joy)? Ask your loved ones: What do you see as my strengths and my weaknesses? Where have you noticed me in the zone, in my bliss? Where do I bring you the most joy.

  3. Daydream…give yourself permission to fantasize and imagine a life that brings you an incredible amount of joy. You’ll be surprised what you discover when you allow your mind the freedom to roam unbound by “reality”.

  4. Journal…set the mood.  Light your favorite candles, pull out objects that hold special meaning to you (mementos, crystals, etc.) and gather them around. Then put pen to paper and let whatever comes flow through.  I highly recommend boosting the energy of this practice by using astrology as a heavenly amplifier and doing this activity during a new moon or a full moon. Full moons are a wonderful time to reflect on and let go of whatever behaviors, beliefs or challenges aren’t serving your highest good. New moons represent new beginnings and are an opportune time to set powerful intentions. 

  5. Give it time.  The inclination is for us to get hung up on time.  Either it’s running out or it isn’t moving fast enough.  The invitation is to view time as a construct you control. The closer you watch the pot, the “slower” it boils.  Do whatever it takes to shift your perspective.  Actively say to yourself – out loud if you’re really in the thick of it – “I have all the time I need” or “I am exactly where I get to be right now.”  Or, call a homegirl – there’s nothing like a true friend to snap you out of the emotional hamster wheel.  Know that you are exactly where you need to be on your journey in the present moment.  Be there. Breathe there.  Allow yourself the space and time this phase of discovery requires. The most beautiful roses take all the time they need to blossom. 

The one thing NOT to do:

  1. Judge yourself.  Our learned behaviors – picked up from our parents, culture, community, societal norms, and expectations can drown out that inner voice of wisdom and love that whispers your truth to you. Don’t shush it. You’re hearing the call for a reason and your heart knows what’s true. Validate your needs and desires without guilt or shame.


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